Whenever someone disses or slanders or makes fun it makes the other person may feel like they are less. Less than human and less from normal. There are two thoughts on this.
1. The reason people are making others feel bad, is because there is something messed up with them. In a way, people feel that karma should be justified. The example I gave is perfect for this! I only spoke in a mean way because I was angry at them. Those bullies in school only were mean because others were mean to them. Essentially, If I feel bad, you feel bad.
2. Another reason would be to feel superior. Don't think you've ever done it? Have you ever gossiped about someone? Behind their backs said that they were failures, losers, or a bad person? It's because everyone wants to feel "on top" by bringing others down. It's a fake way to boost our confidence. We should all know that doesn't work though, and it's kind of pathetic to think it would.
Jim Carey carried a note around with him at all times. The note had a number on it, $1 million. He grew up poor after his hardworking father lost his job doing something he hated. Jim Carey vowed to only do a job if he loved it and he wanted to be rich. A few years later he was offered an acting job that made him $1 million, the goal he put on the note. Here is the >role. You are probably familiar with it.
Confidence and lack of confidence can be made the same way. With the right words and a positive belief, a person doesn't have to worry about the haters.
Here are some ways to be confident if you need it to beat the haters!
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So here is what I think about dissing. Putting others down to feel better about yourself or for the purpose of making them feel inhuman, that is bad. Reacting to others to make them aware of their actions is different. Make them AWARE not angry. What I did, could have been handled better. I could have merely stated that the way they were acting was immature and annoying to the rest of the workers. I could have said that their attempts of showing off were working as we all noticed, but were failing to make us like them. There were probably a bunch of ways to end that discussion without making fun of them.
Like those boys, I have work to do on myself. Less with self-esteem and more on how to react to others. This is how I should do things. Or this. The second link labeled "this" states in tip 8 to "feel sorry for them." Don't think of this as, "Ugh those poor losers." Think more of, "Are they acting this way because they have been bullied or want to feel superior?"
Reaction is the key to this whole dissing de-humanizing thing. You are in charge of how you feel. YOU HAVE THE POWER! Anyone has the power to diss or to praise. To feel bad or to feel good. It may be difficult, but it can be done.
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End On a Happy Note:
This has made me smile very much. Here is Benedict Cumberbatch and all his glorious purpose.
